Opening Doors

It's been a bit since I've written, and not because things haven't been happening... just haven't been bitten by the writing bug until now... I have been able to see growth and shifts within my relationships and the hubs has definitely been on board. His Phoenix has been a nice addition to the house and man, when she took over cooking 2 days a week, I figured it couldn't get any better.

And then, a dear friend of mine came over 3 times in 1 week a few times... 

Now this friend is very pleasant to look at and to talk to. Everything about our time together is a blast. We have been seeing each other twice a week for hiking and paddleboarding for the summer and they make me laugh with their jokes and the sound of their laughter brings me joy. We have known each other for 18 months and have totally connected over that time on a friendship level. While I have found them attractive, I've never broached the topic further due to how far they live away and how they have always said they are not very social and found that the time we had spent together was the perfect amount. 

I had made them aware quite a while ago that one of my baseline requirements in a romantic/sexual relationship is to see each other 3 times a week. So when we saw each other 3 times in a week for a paddleboarding session, they playfully joked about making out with a Scott Pilgrim reference that I didn't catch even though I love that movie, lol... unbeknownst to them, I had been thinking on kisses myself because maybe the distance wasn't too far if they had already come out 3 times a week... maybe I could open a door... and then that joke opened it for me...

The next few days we texted hesitantly... both of us trying to figure out how to move into this new phase... both of us looking forward to hiking and stirring butterflies within each other. That 4.3 mile hike gave us a lot of time to talk as did the ride to brunch and home after, especially around texting... getting out of the vehicle, we embraced and I nuzzled my face into their neck, licking the salty sweat on my lips after pulling away... I can close my eyes now and still taste them. Still feel their body pressed against mine and their nuzzle into my sweaty skin.

From that moment, we have been able to open our communication even more with texting. Teasing and playing through words, planning and anticipating time together. It makes me smile everytime they send me a message. Just knowing that I am taking up space in their beautiful and talented mind. And oh the writing, the exchange of thoughts, completely turns me on... I am such a sapio/demisexual that I couldn't ask for a better potential partner.